Friday, November 1, 2013

My Memorial to My Grandfather: part 6


             It took Oscar an entire week to conjure a response to his mother, as stringing together the words he felt he needed to make his intent clear was not an simple task.  Part of his soul, again, wished to forget this second letter, not to mention the first, as pieces of a disturbing dream dismissed upon the rise of a new day.  He wished to cast all this family nonsense behind him and continue to move toward a prosperous future ahead.   Yet that nagging draw of responsibility, to be a son to his parents and a brother to his siblings, it still cried out to him for attention.
Even so, he weighed in the balances the good life he saw to come with Anna Jane there in California with the farming existence he cared nothing for back in Kansas.  He wrote to his mother, and emphatically, once more, told her he would not be returning to his home state.  He now had a girlfriend named Anna Jane Welch, and they were planning on marrying soon.
He then proceeded to write his mother a lengthy epistle on all he had learned in his journey to become a mechanic, and he told her of all the opportunity developing for him there in Long Beach – yet his mother read none of it.  Her focus, when she read his letter for herself, rested solely upon the name of Anna Jane Welch; and within the next few weeks, Anna Jane found her own letter from Oscar’s mother awaiting her in the mailbox.
Within the text of this letter, Oscar’s mother congratulated her on the wedding plans she and her son entertained; and she offered, what she referred to as a “fine little cottage” in which the two could start their married life.  Young couples often needed a bit of help from their older generation.  She and her husband helped Oscar’s brothers when they moved from the family home.  Every son received eighty acres to farm; and each of the girls received a piano.  Perhaps, Oscar had mentioned learning to play piano from his sister Vesta.  Let them help the two of them as well. 
She then went on to describe the land on which this “fine little cottage” was located.   The still teenage Anna Jane was enamored by what she read.  There was a humble grandeur in how the woman’s words implied, as if a picture of life out of a fairy tale, the perfectly ideal place to begin their life together.  “Cottage” caused her to imagine a quaint little home, surrounded by verdant woods, with the forest creatures of deer, and rabbits, and whatever else might creep timidly from out of the trees, seeking a morsel or two from her hands.  Deer and rabbits could be found in Kansas; couldn’t they?
Though close to the age, Anna Jane was beyond the childish mindset of any giddy schoolgirl – if it ever manifested itself within her character at all.  Rather, she was thought by all as a well-grounded young woman who carried more of the pioneering woman spirit of her ancestors than any superficial flippancy of others her age who were absent that same hands-in-the-soil/feet-on-the-ground trait.  Nevertheless, juxtaposing the idyllic imagery of what Oscar’s mother described awaiting them in Kansas, with the impoverished farms she remembered growing up on from Colorado, it did cause her to wonder.  Is it possible Kansas farms might offer something better?
Oscar’s mother wrote of how good the land was.  She described the warm and inviting character of the house.  Family was everywhere.  Oscar’s brothers, and sisters, and uncles, and aunts, and cousins – they were all at hand.  No better place on earth could a new bride feel like she belonged.
The mention of family within the letter recalled to Anna Jane’s mind the sudden loss of her own.  She was still a gregarious person who thrived on the familiarity of other people within her environment.  Yes, she knew people in Long Beach, people whose company she truly enjoyed; but none of it was the same as family.  There still was her brother Eddie, of course; yet the absence of her other siblings, the tragic deaths of her sisters Leana Belle and Maude (both within weeks of one another), the disappearance of her eldest sister Flora a few years later (some people said murder; no one knew for sure), it all compounded, one heartbreak on top of the next, stirring such a void in this young woman’s soul who needed something more than the transient behavior of people known one day and forgotten the next.
Yes, she was making a living for herself; and Oscar was making a living for himself; and when they finally married, the same opportunities across the horizon he saw, she also could see.  There existed a promise of a bright and prosperous future ahead.  Yet, was that enough?  Was not the hope to belong somewhere, to truly be part of an environment where you fit like the last piece of a puzzle joyously discovered, did this not eclipse all else?  How could one ever establish enduring relationships with other people if you lived absent the deep personal relationships which signified family?
The ocean was beautiful.  Its seeming endlessness, its limitless stretch farther than her eyes could see was a sublime experience of which she never tired.  Walking along the beaches barefoot; her shoes dangling from her hands; the sand creeping in between her toes; the waves of the ocean water cascading over her ankles and feet, who would not wish to experience such things day after day after day?  To welcome the dawn as the sun rose across the water?  It was such a tender touch of God’s grace upon the frailty of the human soul.
The pull of family, however, was strong.  So many brothers, and sisters, cousins, uncles, aunts.  None of Anna Jane’s extended family accompanied them on their journey from Missouri into Colorado.  Most remained still in Missouri; many she did not even know.  Any person holding the Goad surname might be a relation; but if they were, she never knew for certain.
Over the course of the next several weeks, Oscar and Anna Jane carried on many long discussions over moving to Kansas or remaining where they were in California.  Anna Jane was not saying they should leave; she was neither saying they should stay.  She clearly knew not the best course of action to take.  She merely saw the promise of land and a home as significant enough for consideration, something with which Oscar could not argue.  He knew, despite the future appearing bright, the possibility of actually owning his own land, with a home where they could raise a family - such a reality for them in California where they currently were, that hope still lied years away. 
What of his difficulties with his family?  Oscar shared Anna Jane’s emphasis on family; he believed family was to be valued.  He was just tired of the constant slights, the absence of relevance in anything he did or said.  Why step backward to a family who gave no regard to his ideas, never asked for his input, and viewed him as nothing more than the runt of a little brother?
Anna Jane reminded him he would be returning with a bride.  He understood the workings of an engine better than anyone now.  His hard work over the past few years had proven as much.  His ability to take an engine apart, put it back together, and make it sing with the rush of wind through her hair was a true exhilaration the people of Kansas had yet to know.  Surely such accomplishments would garner him some measure of respect.  And returning with a wife?  One who would be married before all the family, as is proper and is good?  How could they not see him in a different and brand new light?
As to the farm, there was no mandate it had to be a farm.  They could eventually get for themselves a few chickens and maybe some cows, but the land itself could lie fallow.  Oscar could instead build a garage to service all the automobiles and farm vehicles in the county.  Maybe one day, they could even build onto the land a pond to remind them of their days gazing out at the ocean.
Now in regards to his immediate family - if there were still problems – did Oscar not have an abundance of cousins?  Were there not nieces and nephews spread out all across Dickinson County?  Would he not grow weary trying to name all of his uncles, and great uncles, all of his aunts, and great aunts?  If nothing was changed with the family he knew, could he not turn to this extended family for the help when needs would arise?

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